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Humanity is at a crucial turning point right now and even how we use our sexual energy can make a difference. So I invite you to take the time and energy to learn more about this amazing and awesome energy that gives you your very life and to begin to use it in a more conscious and focused way.
What is sexual energy?
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In tantric lovemaking,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the power and potential of our shared sexual energy is enormous and can bring about many amazing experiences. When two people come together to make love that is to say they allow their heart energy and sexual energy to merge, and are aware of how to circulate their sexual energy with each other and focus it, their experience becomes quite extraordinary. Not only can they use their energy for themselves but they can also use it to help heal the planet or to end hunger or any other humanitarian ideal that they feel unified on. Consider being able to dedicate your orgasms to ending world hunger. Then your lovemaking becomes something that not only benefits yourselves but all of humanity.
Consider that your sexual energy is likened to nuclear energy in that it is tasteless, odorless but in this case it is also pure electrical current that can generate enormous amounts of energy in your body. That is why men are encouraged to learn how to control their orgasms and to build up the sexual charge in their body. This current can then be stored in your solar plexus and utilized at will when needed. It can also give you much more energy than you ever thought possible,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], even better than two cups of coffee.
The universal energy of consciousness is called Shakti. This energy is also known in other systems as Qui. It is your raw sexual energy. We also call this energy Shakti Kundalini because Kunda means bowl and this is where Shakti initially resides. As you learn how to move this energy up your spine,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and there are many ways to do this, you open up your chakrasand other energy centers.
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For most it is something we feel when we notice we are attracted to someone. Our bodies feel tingly or our genitals feel some “heat”. Maybe your heart begins to pound and you just feel excited or “turned on”,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but this is only a superficial explanation. Some may even say that it is our baser animal instincts that are running the show. But did you know that our body carries within in it a vast potential of raw sexual energy which for most of us goes untapped. This raw energy is not only the life force of all creatures but it is has the power when used properly to heal your body, bring you enormous amounts of pleasure, awaken your brain, bring you full spiritual enlightenment,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], open your heart and manifest anything you desire.
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From the tantric perspective our sexual energy is the “feminine creative force of the universe” and as such it is often viewed as chaotic, wild, untamed,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and uncontrollable energy. Each of us,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], both men and women,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], have this energy and most of us have never even bothered to learn about it. Here in the West,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], sexual energy is most often portrayed as an itch to be scratched or hormones that take us over,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or an unbridled passion or lust between two people. Rarely do we ever see the power of our sexual energy when used for healing, spiritual awakening or sex magic.
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Common Reason Why Men Pull Away No 2
Here's a basic layout of why this happens from first date to when the men drift and seem like there interest in you has disappeared. It is quite simple really, but can be something that you overlook, or just don't understand this basic fact...
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Then we grow up a little, and there comes a time when we seek a more committed relationship with somebody that we hope will last for our lifetime... yea? I thought so. Well that is what I surely want!
And within those marriages are children, you could imagine that you are the child! Growing up and watching how your examples are treating each other. And in some way shape or form whether one realizes it or not, some of that will and does rub of on you! I for one am guilty.
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Where the fact is that's the biggest reason "why men pull away"! We guy's need our space. But please don't get me wrong there are men who make plenty of relationship mistakes also. Loosing there precious girlfriends all the time...
You can not only find out why men pull away, You can learn to break down your mens entire being and have him want to know how he can stop you from leaving you...
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Right from the days of early dating two people become attracted to each other. Right? And they will date or go out for some time, yea?
The thing is that when you meet your man and get threw the attraction stage and begin getting serious, you will start getting to know each other. He will begin to see the grass roots of your upbringing,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and what has made YOU!.
This reason may be hard for some to understand, or even admit to. But it is a biggy. I will apologise now if I offend anybody... Sorry!
You can find out exactly what it takes to keep a man interested and in love with you. Something I feel is a great idea if you wanted to have an uncomplicated love life,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
Here it is: Many marriages today are failing! Right,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]?
Now going back to those old dating days,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], where guy's would come and go, and to the now period when you want to keep a man! You have developed a sub -conscious state of mind that you have to smother your man with yourself 100%. I say that because that is what I see everywhere. Men can not be themselves, because there ladies think that they need to be with their man all the time and do everything together, believing that it is what is needed to keep the relationship going.
Why He Pulls Away: Common Facts
I say this because this is why I have pulled away in my past relationships...
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8. Write a journal. Even if you don’t love to write, make an exception for this. It is a good purging system. Let your feelings come alive on paper. It is a refreshing experience. You can start by writing about the good times spent with your loved one. Believe me, it will bring a smile to your face in some way or the other.
10. Go to yahoo and search in the “groups” section for “grief” or “mourning” and you will find several active groups. Join about three of them, but choose the ones that have a small membership because you want to find an intimate group rather than a large group. Find someone in the group according to their postings that relate to your situation and ask if you could correspond with them via email. Google also has groups,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but on a smaller scale.
2. Please cry and let out the grief as much as you can. Do NOT bottle up your emotions. It will only hurt you in the long run and you won’t be able to communicate or nurture your other relationships with family members, friends and associates.
4. Find a support group if it gets too overwhelming or seek out a family member of friend who you can talk to. My personal story was that I found a new friend who was a babysitter next door. She offered me support by listening to my story and providing a shoulder for me to cry on. She used to pick me up on Sunday mornings and take me to church. It was there that I found the peace of God. It did not happen overnight. It was a process, but that is where it started and I believe God sent her in my life just for that purpose. My support group became my church brothers and sisters who offered me the unconditional and sincere love of Christ. Through that experience, I learned more about being thankful for opportunities like this to share my story so I can encourage someone.
My son’s death and his memory will live on as long as I have breath in my body and it will have been worth something to help even just one person.
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6. If it is possible to do this on your own: have a family meeting and allow everyone to discuss his or her feelings. I wish I had done that with my husband, but I was feeling so much self-pity that it did not occur to me at the time. My husband had a daughter from another marriage who was very close to Chadrick and she helped me a lot, without my realizing it at the time, because when she would come for weekends, she would want to talk about the good times that we had with Chadrick and she had me smiling sometimes.
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When all else has failed and you don’t know what to do,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but begin to weep and get it all out of your system for that day. You have nothing to be ashamed of and you are entitled to grieve for your loved one. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. You are human and you do have feelings. Let me validate that right now. You are allowed to be weak during your grief. It is normal. I cried for two long years, so be reassured that you are not alone in your situation. There are lots of people who are having trouble coping with their grief.
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7. My mother, even though, she was not with me at the time used to provide support over the phone. Talk with your parents. Let them know how you are feeling. They will understand.
I would like to share some tips of how I got through the whole ordeal and how you can too.
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Learning how to win love back may be able to reignite a burned out relationship. Love is a truly fickle emotion that can burn out just as quickly and suddenly as it was originally ignited. When outside factors,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], such as money for example,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], create stress in a relationship then love is most at risk. Once relationship problems become an issue,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], love can quickly deteriorate with no resolution in sight. Here are some basic strategies that will show you how to win love back:
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Be Positive:
Love is all about appreciating one another for who you are and this is a big step in learning how to win love back. Your partner may have different goals and interests than you. The key is to embrace them even if you do not agree with them,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and support them with all of your heart. Encourage growth in your partner's interests, and you will be promoting growth in your relationship.
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Keep in mind that all relationships have ups and downs, even the best ones. If you want to learn how to win love back, you need to be willing to learn how to take action and repair the problems in your relationship. You cannot simply sit back and wait for the relationship problems to go away on there own,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as this will make your partner feel alienated more than anything. So if you are ready to learn how to win love back, take the aforementioned advice to heart and take action once and for all.
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Setting effective boundaries
Types of boundaries Material boundaries determine whether you give or loan things, such as your money, car, clothes, books, food, or toothbrush.
Physical boundaries pertain to your personal space, privacy, and body. Do you give a handshake or a hug – to whom and when? How do you feel about loud music, nudity, and locked doors?
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Emotional boundaries distinguish separating your emotions and responsibility for them from someone else’s. It’s like an imaginary line or force field that separates you and others. Healthy boundaries prevent you from giving advice, blaming or accepting blame. They protect you from feeling guilty for someone else’s negative feelings or problems and taking others’ comments personally. High reactivity suggests weak emotional boundaries. Healthy emotional boundaries require clear internal boundaries – knowing your feelings and your responsibilities to yourself and others.
Sexual boundaries protect your comfort level with sexual touch and activity – what, where,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], when, and with whom.
Spiritual boundaries relate to your beliefs and experiences in connection with God and a higher power. Why it’s hard
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You may not believe you have any rights if yours weren’t respected growing up. For example, you have a right to privacy, to say “No,” to be addressed with courtesy and respect, to change your mind or cancel commitments, to ask people you hire to work the way you want, to ask for help, to be left alone, to conserve your energy, and to not answer a question, the phone, or an email.
Anger is often a signal that action is required. If you feel resentful or victimized and are blaming someone or something, it might mean that you haven’t been setting boundaries. If you feel anxious or guilty about setting boundaries, remember, your relationship suffers when you’re unhappy. Once you get practice setting boundaries, you feel empowered and less anxiety, resentment,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and guilt. Generally, you receive more respect from others and your relationships improve.
Boundaries are learned. You didn’t learn you had rights or boundaries, if yours weren’t valued growing up. Any kind of abuse violates personal boundaries, including teasing. For example, my brother ignored my pleas for him to stop tickling me until I could barely breathe. This made me feel powerless and that I didn’t have a right to say “Stop” when I was uncomfortable. In recovery, I gained the capacity to tell a masseuse to Stop and use less pressure. In some cases,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], boundary violations affect a child’s ability to mature into an independent, responsible adult.
Internal boundaries regulate your relationship with yourself. Think of them as self-discipline and healthy management of time, thoughts, emotions, behavior and impulses. If you’re procrastinating, doing things you neither have to nor want to do, or overdoing and not getting enough rest, recreation, or balanced meals, you may be neglecting internal physical boundaries. Learning to manage negative thoughts and feelings empowers you,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as does the ability to follow through on goals and commitments to yourself.
It takes time, support, and relearning to be able to set effective boundaries. Self-awareness and learning to be assertive are the first steps. Setting boundaries isn’t selfish. It’s self-love – You say “Yes,” to you,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], each time you say “No.” It builds self-esteem. But it usually takes encouragement to make yourself a priority and to persist, especially when you receive pushback. Read more on setting boundaries in Codependency for Dummies and my ebook,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], How to Speak Your Mind and Set Limits.
By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
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Love can’t exist without boundaries, even with your children. It’s easy to understand external boundaries as your bottom line. Think of rules and principles you live by when you say what you will or won’t do or allow. If you have difficulty saying no, override your needs to please others, or are bothered by someone who is demanding, controlling,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], criticizing, pushy, abusive, invasive, pleading, or even smothering you with kindness, it’s your responsibility to speak-up. Boundaries also are also internal, discussed below.
There are several areas where boundaries apply:
Guilt and resentment
People often say they set a boundary, but it didn’t help. There’s an art to setting boundaries. If it’s done in anger or by nagging – “I’ve told you 100 times . . .,” you won’t be heard. Boundaries are not meant to punish, but are for your well-being and protection. They’re more effective when you’re assertive, calm, firm, and courteous. If that doesn’t work, you may need to communicate consequences to encourage compliance. It’s essential, however, that you never threaten a consequence you’re not fully prepared to carry out.
It’s hard for codependents to set boundaries because: 1) They put others’ needs and feelings first; 2) They don’t know themselves; 3) They don’t feel they have rights; 4) They believe setting boundaries jeopardizes the relationship; and 5) They never learned to have healthy boundaries.
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Healthy emotional and mental internal boundaries help you not assume responsibility for, or obsess about, other people’s feelings and problems – something codependents commonly do, followed by violating others’ emotional boundaries with unwanted advice. Strong internal boundaries curb suggestibility. You think about yourself, rather than automatically agreeing with others’ criticism or advice. You’re then empowered to set external emotional boundaries if you choose. Similarly, since you’re accountable for your feelings and actions, you don’t blame others. When you’re blamed, if you don’t feel responsible, instead of defending yourself or apologizing, you can say, “I don’t take responsibility for that.”
You have rights
Think about all the situations where these rights apply.
Write how you feel and how you currently handle them.
How often do you say “Yes,” when you’d like to say, “No?”
Write want you want to happen.
List your personal bill of rights. What prevents you from asserting them?
Write statements expressing your bottom line. Be kind. For example, “Please don’t criticize me (or call,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or borrow my . . .),” and “Thank you for thinking of me, but I regret I won’t be joining (or able to help) you . . .” Internal boundaries
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Create a “recollection collection” scrapbook filled with favorite photographs, love letters, keepsakes from special occasions, and cherished mementos such as concert tickets or postcards from places you’ve traveled together.
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Skin picking and nail biting are chronic problems, so there is not currently a "cure" but you can find relief if you are willing to work at it. Hypnosis for nail biting consists of three parts.
Nail biting is related to skin picking and hair pulling. These behaviors are labeled as Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. Nail biters often keep their hands hidden behind their backs,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. Nail biters often feel shame and experience out-of-control feelings at times,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. They often wonder why they are not able to stop biting their nails and they often question whether or not they are sane.
Even if you have more than one of these problems,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], do not give up. These behaviors can be overcome if you have the motivation. More important is learning to "de-stigmatize" yourself. You are not crazy, helpless,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], morally weak or totally out of control, even though you may feel like some or all of these things at times. Once you realize that you are just a person who simply happens to have a problem, you can start to make some serious progress.
To start with, nail biting is a stress related habit. So the first part of the hypnotic therapy is to teach the nail biter how to be more relaxed at all times. To that end, I believe that traditional hypnosis, Ericksonian hypnosis, and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques can be quite effective. That's because the very essence of hypnosis is relaxation. The sufferer can learn to apply several different methods to enhance both the relaxed state, as well as his/her overall feeling of well-being.
There is also a strong commonality seen in the various purposes behind hair pulling, skin picking and nail biting. At a very basic level, they satisfy an urge. Many people report an uncontrollable compulsion to do them. Biting, picking or pulling also seems to deliver a pleasurable or relaxed sensation.
Second,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you are fighting the fact that biting your nails feels good to do,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and it offers a lot of short-term satisfaction and either stimulation or soothing feelings. It takes time and effort to master, but I believe it is worth it. Experience has shown a number of methods to be extremely effective!
With the nail biting behavior,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], being realistic is very important. First, you have probably rehearsed the unwanted behavior hundreds or even thousands of times. You need to accept that the urge to bite your nails will not be overcome in a few days.
When sufferers feel stressed, pulling, picking or biting has a kind of soothing effect on them and reduces levels of stimulation. On the other hand, when they are bored or inactive, they seem to provide a needed level of stimulation to the nervous system. This probably accounts for why so many people who dislike doing them find it so hard to give them up. It simply "feels good" at the time no matter what.
The third part of the therapy is to eliminate the compulsion to bite the nails. There are hypnotic methods that actually program the client with a compulsion to not bite.
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The second part teaches the individual awareness of this unconscious habit,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. Suggestions are given to the unconscious mind to make the conscious mind aware that you are bringing your hand towards your mouth for the purpose of biting your nails. Then you get to consciously decide whether or not you are actually going to bite them.
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Biting often happens when nail biters are in one of two modes. Some biters do it in an automatic way,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as if they are in a trance and not really thinking about what they are doing. It is often when they are involved in some other activity at the same time such as watching TV or working on the computer, etc. For others, the deliberate picking or biting is their main activity at the time, and they will frequently interrupt other activities to engage in it.
There are several other powerful hypnosis and NLP methods. For example, we can help the client to set up an "Anchor" or trigger so that he/she can momentarily disassociate. This is an effective technique that will effectively relieve the compulsion.
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First, I want to reference "The You" and what it is specifically and why is it so important. First "The You" is not the physical aspects such as the color of your hair, shape of your nose or body size but the unique spiritual energy we refer to it as your spirit, your soul or essence.
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6. Teach them that they require to listen to you when you ask them to be quiet. They will discover to respect your need for a little while to work. Make certain you give them some thing fascinating to do and pay them lots of attention when you are not working. This ought to work as long as you don't ask them to stay quiet for hours at a time. Just be firm and stay with your guns when they do get noisy although you work.
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5. Work in short intervals although the kids are about. Kids can just be great and quiet for so lengthy. Ensure you take frequent breaks to fool around with them. Have a tickle session, take them out to the yard to play catch, play conceal and go seek for a few minutes. Just let them be kids and eliminate some of that develop up energy.
1. Get your children on a sleeping schedule and work while they nap. Don't let them sleep too late in the afternoon, or you'll have a tough time getting them at night.
Usually take into consideration that kids will likely be children. Keep your sense of humor. It is not the end of the world in the occasion you have to excuse yourself from a phone conversation to break up a fight or attend to a kid that needs you. Your children will get noisy now and again. Try your greatest to maintain them quiet, but not at the trouble of stressing your self out or expecting too much from your children.
3. Give your children a unique game to play. Many board games work well, or if you have an extra computer you can collect some age suitable software. The cornerstone would be to discover something that doesn't make a lot of noise and will maintain their attention for just a small amount while. Confirm you don't use any given game too often,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or your child will get board with it quickly.
2. Work while you husband or substantial other is home, or ask a relative if she would be inclined to watch your kids for a couple of hours a day. You are able to also search for a Mom's morning off program inside your area. Your child will get to play with other kids although you work. Trading babysitting or arranging play-dates will work contrary to also.
1. Maintain them busy with some soft toys that make small or no noise. Fabric dolls and stuffed animals are a great option. You are in a position to also use the stackable plastic rings. I found a gentle,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], fabric covered box that came with a group of 4 finger puppets. The box had different openings along with a mirror on 1 side. My baby spent hours putting the animals in and going back out.
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When you first start working on the phone from house, keeping the kids quiet may be a bit of challenging. There is a fine line between keeping your youngster quiet and stifling the fun that kids should have every day. Here are some age- proper ideas on what you can do to make certain you get the minimum of some quiet phone time in each day.
4. Work when someone else can watch the newborn child. You can get a couple of hours of work in while your partner is home. Ask a relative if she would be prepared to watch the infant a few hours a week. You are in a position to also trade babysitting with a buddy or neighbor. Provide to watch her child for a couple of hours a week, if she'll do the precise same for you.
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First, I want to reference "The You" and what it is specifically and why is it so important. First "The You" is not the physical aspects such as the color of your hair, shape of your nose or body size but the unique spiritual energy we refer to it as your spirit, your soul or essence.
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It's irritating, it's frustrating and it gets on your nerves.
Limit Whining and Teach Better Communication
If you have an older child that's developing a whining habit, suggest they come up with a solution to their perceived boredom or other voiced problem on their own. If you suggest possible alternatives,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it might just prolong the child's whining.
Also, be aware,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], sometimes whining can be the result of trauma and trouble in their life. A divorce, serious family illness or problems at school may be at the root. Additional positive attention and quality one-on-one time may be just the medicine your child needs at a time like this. Your pediatrician can also suggest alternatives to curb whining should the positive attention and disciplinary actions be ineffective.
Once a limit has been set,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], follow through. It's imperative that both parents are on board with this approach and any limits set. Both must fully follow through when the whining rule has been violated.
When the whining is curbed and replaced with clearer verbal communication between you and your child you are setting the stage for better safety for them for their lifetime. They need to be able to effectively tell responsible adults, such as you,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], teachers or police, what is or has occurred that happens to them. By learning to stay calm and talk clearly instead of whining is a huge step in that direction.
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Though it's obnoxious, whining is actually a way your child gets your attention. And,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], like other habits,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you can nip it in the bud early with a few simple strategies. You can teach your child there are other appropriate, effective forms of communicating with you. Good communication is one of the foundations of good child safety.
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One of the major problems among students who are bullied is that they are humiliated and embarrassed to the point where they keep it to themselves. Parents can help by building a closer connection with their kids, so if they become the victims of bullying, they’ll turn to their parents for help.
At SuperCamp,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], we call this strategy “building a home court advantage.”
We hear of a home court advantage in sports,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], where the home team enjoys an edge as it feeds off the support of its fans. In families, the home court advantage helps kids reduce stress, cope with challenges, and feel comfortable sharing personal issues with their parents.
Building a home court advantage is not a quick fix. The trust and the connection must grow over time. Here are four key steps in how to do it.
1,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. Listen More/Talk Less
If there is a lack of communication in your home, the situation won’t improve by trying to force it. In general, be ready with your ears when your child does decide to open up, even if it’s to share simple news.
One great place to engage your child is when you’re driving in the car together. When you are sitting beside each other in the front seat of the car, you’re facing forward. With both of you looking straight ahead, you’ve created a non-confrontational setting, in which a conversation can start and flow more easily.
Also, whether it’s in the car or somewhere else, when your child is sharing some news, it helps to encourage more dialogue by saying, “Tell me more.” This simple request gives your child an indication that you’re interested in what they’re saying. At the same time, it’s completely non-judgmental; you’re not offering an opinion on what way just said.
2. Ask…Don’t Tell
Do you like to talk with people who don’t understand you? Of course you don’t. Kids are the same way. Often when parents attempt to provide heartfelt advice, even with the best of intentions, kids will perceive it as a “lecture” and automatically shut down the communication process.
Asking a question,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], on the other hand, will generate a response and lead to a dialogue. A question,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], particularly one that requires more than a yes or no answer, engages the brain. It’s a classic technique in sales that is used to learn more about the prospective buyer and to build rapport. And it’s something that works well in families,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as well.
Asking more and telling less also gives parents a better opportunity to learn what pressures their kids may be under. Whether it’s bullying, relationships, grades,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or something else, the information more likely will come to light by asking simple, non probing questions.
3. Share Your Values; Discover Your Child’s
It’s easy for parents to think that their kids know what values the family stands for. After all, they’re part of the family. But it’s best not to assume that they’re either focused or clear on your family’s values.
So have a casual conversation,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], perhaps at the dinner table, where you discuss what values your family stands for. Ask your kids what their values are. If they need time to think about it, suggest revisiting the topic at dinner in a day or two.
Once you’ve had this conversation, encourage your kids to seek out others in school with like values. By being part of a group, a child is less susceptible to being bullied. And by being part of a group of like-minded kids who share common values and interests,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], an individual is less likely to be ostracized.
4. Build Authentic Bridges to Your Child
The prime directive in our summer enrichment programs is “Theirs to Ours, Ours to Theirs.” What this means is in order for our staff to teach the students who attend SuperCamp, first they must enter the kids’ world. In other words, our staff must connect with the kids, which gives them permission to teach.
This strategy applies to building a home court advantage,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as well. Parents can begin to build a bridge by showing a sincere interest in their kids’ hobbies or passions. It doesn’t matter if it’s a sport, in the arts, or creating video game software; if there is interest on the parents’ part, the child feels good.
Parents can further strengthen this bridge by participating in the hobby/activity with their kids,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as appropriate. Finally, a third level in building the bridge using this strategy is to let the child become the “teacher” by showing the parent how to do something that the he or she is good at.
Creating a meaningful connection with your child takes time. But it’s an excellent investment on your part. It will ensure that a sufficient level of trust is present, so that if your child faces a personal crisis, such as being bullied,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], he or she will want to come to you for advice and support.
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Unfortunately, it will require time for you to overcome a break up. The majority are likely to find that the pain tends to subside a little every day. Eventually, this pain will disappear completely.
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I loved being a "good-enough mother." I use the past tense now because the needs of my children have changed: my precious daughter, Katie, is in heaven with her Creator and my ever-humorous son, Richard, is happily raising his own sweet family. Each would laugh at my memories, my deep thoughts, my recollections.
~ I smile remembering pre-adolescence when buying a dozen donuts after Mass and eating three because "the kids like donuts."
And we all know that babies need things like diapers - lots of them. No designer Pampers for this mother either; both children were allergic to the plastic coating. Plus,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], my mindset was allergic to the idea of doing something easy when I could do it the hard way. The folding was nothing, but the trip to the Laundromat? Now that was an outing because we had no washer or dryer and owned one car. Besides, somebody had to make a living. (Yes, my husband's name was "Somebody.") Oh,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the things we women do to economize saving for a house. And I really did work within a budget - absolutely resisted the purchase of a stackable washer/dryer combo for the apartment - even though "Somebody" thinks I only scrunched my nose up at the word "budget."
For instance, in those first weeks of motherhood, if anyone even mentioned my new baby daughter's name, my breasts would gush like the Trevi Fountain. Thank you Mother Nature.
So, exactly what is the "good-enough mother"? English pediatrician, DonaldWinnicott, M.D. – an influential object-relations psychoanalyst - believed this type of mother was a different kind of mom because she didn't hold perfectionism as her model. Good on you, Doc Winnicott; that's "a like" button over here for sure. Honestly,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], I never realized that perfectionism in motherhood was even a possibility. Maybe it's a new app.
For many of us, Mother's Day stirs something deeply loving. For others, ambivalent feelings abide. You see,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], after thirty-three years in the counseling field and drying the tears off many faces, I can accurately say that not every woman feels she had, was or is the "good-enough mother."
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~ I smile remembering all those checkups and my favorite pediatrician (who happened to look like Antonio Banderas) saying to me on one I can barely stand I'm so tired mornings, "I can't understand why your son isn't sleeping through the night at four months.” Then he narrowed his eyes and leaned in, “You're not playing with him when he wakes up are you?" When I didn't immediately respond he tilted his head, pursed his lips and continued in a considerably louder voice, "Who wouldn't want to wake up, have a little nuzzle and play? Next time,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], just give that baby boy water and he'll never wake up again in the middle of the night!" Ladies, I think there's a lesson for us in there somewhere!
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The Marchman Act was created to help people when they can't—or won't—help themselves. It should be considered a last resort to be used only when all other options have been exhausted and you're left with nothing else you can do to help. If you suspect that your teen may be involved with drug abuse, here are some common factors that lead to it.
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